March 20th, 2020
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January 3rd, 2019
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October 29th, 2014
I might find myself in tears. I wrote these words to a friend recently, anticipating a hurtful experience with someone I know. I was poking fun at myself, making fun of my propensity to cry, a trait I am at times proud of and at other times would rather not have.
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March 12th, 2014
Coping with depression, loneliness, and feelings of hopelessness can feel like a solitary activity. When we feel these ways, we often have the impression that we’re on our own. I recently asked my Facebook friends how they get through difficult times – an effort of mine to get more ideas as a therapist and to also help people feel more connected at a time when it’s hard to feel love from others. I received many replies and have published portions of each one. Following are the final comments I received from my friends. I hope you find these as meaningful as I have.Read the rest of this page »
February 10th, 2014
Trying to be authentic in this world can be hard. We feel pressured to conform…even by such simple questions as “How are you doing today?” – which we often answer with a pasted on smile and the word “Fine”. Some of us work in jobs we hate, fearful of what it would mean, what people would think, and how we would get by, if we changed careers. People in their 40’s and 50’s realize that they have much they still want to do, contemplate making changes, but don’t make them because they’re fearful that they will be seen as going through a “mid-life crisis” – a patronizing, and simplistic concept. Others are fearful to express their sexuality whether it is a same-sex attraction or a BDSM desire. And some present themselves as a gender that they know they really aren’t. Of course, the list goes on; I’m sure you could add your own ways in which you feel coerced into “fitting in.”
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September 26th, 2011
Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves.Read the rest of this page »
June 12th, 2011
When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on. Have you heard this saying before? I’ve seen it credited to Franklin Delano Roosevelt. And I’ve been thinking about what it means to feel like you’re at the end of your rope, when you believe that you can’t take any more. When you feel like you just can’t go on.Read the rest of this page »
December 1st, 2010
Therapy and counseling can be difficult. You make the appointment and show up with the best of intentions. There are some things you need to work on – to talk out. You then find yourself face-to-face with the therapist and you just can’t bring yourself to speak your truth. You feel self-conscious, conspicuous, embarrassed or perhaps vulnerable. You know that being honest with yourself will help, but it’s difficult. Sometimes it takes courage to be honest.Read the rest of this page »
September 13th, 2009
Recently a friend of mine from the Midwest told me about her visit to New York City. Her and her partner brought their nephew, a teenager who feels and appears out of place in their hometown, for vacation. What’s important to understand is how their nephew behaves at home. He dresses quite provocatively and acts quite haughty. He easily puts people off with his behavior and attitude. If one tried to understand what might be behind this, you might guess that he is acting in a protective and distancing way.Read the rest of this page »
November 19th, 2008
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