May 28th, 2012
Is your sex life not what it used to be? Would you like it to be more than it has been? Are there things you want to try but haven’t? What can you do about it?
If you’re one of the typical folk who is uncomfortable exploring your sexuality or discussing what you’d like to do, one of the first things I would do is suggest inviting Salt & Pepa over. Yes, that pop duo from the 80′s. Why them? Well, I don’t think you need to actually visit with them, but just listen to a few verses from their song. You know it. We all do. It’s simple:
“Let’s talk about sex, baby. Let’s talk about you and me.”
Yes, my advice is often times that simple. Talk. Talk with your partner…or partners. Talk with potential partners. Talk with your therapist. Talk with your friends. Just be careful to talk with someone who wont shame you for your desires.
You say its difficult, embarassing, or uncomfortable talking about such personal things. It will most likely stay that way if you don’t take the risk. Little by little, it will be easier for you. And little by little, you might find your sex life improving.
If you’re looking for a therpaist or counselor in Dupont Circle, Washington, DC, feel free to contact me, Mike Giordano, at 202-460-6384 or Mike.Giordano.MSW@gmail.com.