Questioning Sexual Orientation

November 5th, 2008

For some folk, realizing that you are attracted to a person of the same sex can be a confusing and anxiety-producing experience.  All of the sudden, your life is not what you think it is.  Your dreams for the future seem less clear.     

Or maybe you worry about what friends, family, community, or religious community will say.  Will they accept or shun you?  If you’re married, how do you tell your husband, wife, child?  You may be reticent to say that you’re gay, lesbian, or bisexual.  This isn’t comfortable to you.  But you know that something is different.

It may be helpful for you to talk to an understanding person; a person who has some distance from you, who can keep this very private feeling confidential.  Many people have found talking with an affirming therapist or counselor useful. 

I have much experience working with folks trying to make sense of sexual attraction.  I never tell you who you are or what you should be doing.  I work to create a space for you to explore what this means for you.  I strive to understand your situation with regards to your individual experience, culture, and racial or ethnic identity.

However, where ever you are on this journey, remember that you are not alone.  Others have felt this way and have been able to find peace.  There is space for you in this world.

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