Posts Tagged ‘& Transgender Concerns’

Body Parts and Sex – Overcoming Dysphoria

October 3rd, 2014

Gender TherapySex should be fun, sensual, erotic, hot, connecting. Highlight the word should. But it’s not this way for some people. Specifically, it is sometimes not comfortable for some transgender and gender non-conforming people. One of the main culprits is discomfort with what are supposed to be sexy body parts.  But if these body parts – or at least the mainstream names for them – don’t align with your gender identity, then sex becomes less than fun.  However, I recently attended a workshop, by a fantastic presenter – S. Bear Bergman – that helped us all reimagine trans sexuality.

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The Trouble with Passing

January 22nd, 2014

For many transgender people, particularly those who identify on the gender binary, “passing” is of particular importance.  And this makes a lot of sense to me.  I understand the very real concerns about people on the streets, at the job, or in a restroom recognizing you as transgender. There can be powerful, negative repercussions when that happens.  Unfortunately, we see this all the time and even have an annual day of mourning to those whose lives are lost due to the fear and hatred of others.  However, I have seen in my work that passing also comes with some troubles.

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The Unseen Hearts of Gay Men

November 3rd, 2010

If you’re a gay man, you know the buzz – gay guys are mean to each other, catty, sex-obsessed, and have a shallowgay-friendly therapist focus on appearance.  We don’t need to go over that again.  It’s become a culturally-shared truism.  Thankfully, there is a different perspective.

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