Posts Tagged ‘gender identity’
July 18th, 2015
Having good sex can increase a trans person’s comfort with their body. This is the message Buck Angel and I attempted to impart to over 150 sex educators, counselors, and therapists at the annual AASECT (American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists) conference in Minneapolis this past June. At our workshop “Sexing the Trans Man,” attendees were excited to learn about the connections between gender identity, body dysphoria, and sexual expression as well as the opportunity to dispel some myths about transgender men. We showed one of Buck’s docu-porns to help attendees hear from actual transgender men as well as see what transgender sex actually looks like. (Hint – it doesn’t look much different than cisgender sex.) as well as see the diversity of transmasculine bodies.The major myth we attempted to dispel is that trans men hate their bodies.
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Tags: body love, gender identity, sexuality, transgender
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October 3rd, 2014
Sex should be fun, sensual, erotic, hot, connecting. Highlight the word should. But it’s not this way for some people. Specifically, it is sometimes not comfortable for some transgender and gender non-conforming people. One of the main culprits is discomfort with what are supposed to be sexy body parts. But if these body parts – or at least the mainstream names for them – don’t align with your gender identity, then sex becomes less than fun. However, I recently attended a workshop, by a fantastic presenter – S. Bear Bergman – that helped us all reimagine trans sexuality.
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Tags: & Transgender Concerns, gender identity, gender therapist, sex, sex therapy, transgender
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June 26th, 2014
What is it like when gender becomes so obscure and individualized that it seems to no longer matter as much as it did before…while still being an important part of someone’s identity and experience? Attend a conference for Trans*/GNC (Gender Non-conforming) folk and their allies and you’ll see for yourself, as I recently did, and you’ll realize how radically different, and accepting, the world can be.
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Tags: gender, gender identity, gender non-conforming, genderqueer, glbt, lgbt, trans*, transgender
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April 23rd, 2014
I was recently reading a blog in which the author – a mother of a young boy – was bragging that her son is “all boy” – meaning he is rough and tumble and plays with trucks, guns, and GI Joes. I found this offensive. What about the boys who like Barbies and arts and crafts are sensitive? Are they not complete boys? Are they somehow deficient? Would she be less pleased with him. It seems strange to me that we are still playing into gender stereotypes about masculinity in men and boys.
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Tags: gender identity, masculinity, men, transgender
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January 22nd, 2014
For many transgender people, particularly those who identify on the gender binary, “passing” is of particular importance. And this makes a lot of sense to me. I understand the very real concerns about people on the streets, at the job, or in a restroom recognizing you as transgender. There can be powerful, negative repercussions when that happens. Unfortunately, we see this all the time and even have an annual day of mourning to those whose lives are lost due to the fear and hatred of others. However, I have seen in my work that passing also comes with some troubles.
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Tags: & Transgender Concerns, gender identity, glbt, lgbt, transgender, transphobia, transsexual
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September 19th, 2010
Most people never question their gender – they don’t even realize that they have a gender identity. It just is. For others, the path is different. If you identify as transgender, transsexual, Female to Male, Male to Female, Genderqueer, or any way other than Cisgendered, you know that path. And sometimes, you may find it helpful to have a therapist journey with you.
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Tags: gender, gender identity, gender therapist, lgbt, transgender
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June 27th, 2009
Do you know about the Trans Health Conference in Philadelphia? I just attended the 8th meeting in early June and found it to be a great resource for everyone…trans folk, gender variant children, therapists, doctors, and anyone else interested in transgender concerns, lives, and health.
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Tags: gender identity, transgender, transsexual
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December 15th, 2008
I just read Randi Ettner’s “Gender Loving Care” (W.W. Norton & Company, 1999) and was reminded of many things. Most importantly, the great courage it takes for folks to live their life according to their true gender, not the one ascribe to them by society. When a person’s body doesn’t match their internal sense of who they are, a great dissatisfaction and discomfort can occur. To have the courage to be true to oneself, in the face of a judging culture, is something to be admired.
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Tags: gender identity, shame, transgender, transphobia, transsexual
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