Posts Tagged ‘counseling’

The Hard Season…

February 6th, 2017

therapythe hard season
split you through,
you will bleed water.

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Dance Party for One: Real World Advice on Coping with Depression & Loneliness, Part II

February 26th, 2014

Feeling depressed, lonely, and hopeless are not unusual emotional experiences for many of us. Yet it is something we rarely talk about in public or with our friends. We read books – often in the solitude of our homes – which can be helpful. But books connect us in a different way then discussion. In an effort to destigmatize this part of life, I asked my personal Facebook friends for their thoughts on how they cope when they find themselves in difficult emotional states. Here’s the second installment of their lovely responses.

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“When will I feel better?”

March 4th, 2011

change psychotherapyPeople often come to therapists to feel better.  They are tired, depressed, anxious, worried, down…you name it, as you’ve probably been there yourself.  Folks will often see therapists with the hope that these feelings will go away…quickly.  In fact, sometimes in the first session, clients ask me directly, “When will I feel better?”

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What Therapy And New York City Have in Common

September 13th, 2009

therapyRecently a friend of mine from the Midwest told me about her visit to New York City.  Her and her partner brought their nephew, a teenager who feels and appears out of place in their hometown, for vacation.  What’s important to understand is how their nephew behaves at home.  He dresses quite provocatively and acts quite haughty.  He easily puts people off with his behavior and attitude.  If one tried to understand what might be behind this, you might guess that he is acting in a protective and distancing way.

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Radical (and Gentle) Acceptance

August 24th, 2009

difficult emotionsHave you ever felt lonely, confused, angry or sad?  Of course you have.  These are all normal, human emotions and experiences.  Are you comfortable feeling this way?  Perhaps not.  So, what do you do when faced with them?  Do you stuff them, avoiding them through negative self-talk, eating, drinking or some other behavior?  If so, there is another way.

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Therapy and Rock Climbing

May 1st, 2009

“In rock climbing, there is a step called a ‘commitment move.’ You’re tied to the ropes and there’s a moment you have to let go of solid ground to move to the next higher place. It’s a scary step. You must trust what you’re tied to more than what you’re standing on.”         –Mary Manin Morrisey

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Why People See Therapists

February 2nd, 2009

There are many reasons to see a therapist or counselor.  Some people come to deal with past trauma, difficult feelings, or emotions.  Others spend the time in session working on ways to cope with addictions or compulsions.  Some come in order to begin living a life true to themselves – their gender identity or sexual orientation.  Whatever the reason that compels a person to meet weekly with a stranger and speak their truth, perhaps the ultimate reason is captured in the few lines from the below poem…

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Race Relations in the Therapy Room

November 19th, 2008

I am sitting across from a new client – a person of another race.  I make a statement like “Often times, the fact of our different races can influence the process and outcome of our work together.  I’m going to do my best to pay attention to this.  I’d also encourage you to speak up if you think our cultural differences are getting in the way of our work.”  The client looks at me with a smile, pulls out her/his wallet, and shows me a picture of her/his child – clearly a biracial kid.

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What is Self-Love?

November 15th, 2008

Someone once asked me this question.  This person was struggling with their past and the way it was making itself known in their present.  So many mistakes.  So much growth still desired.  Positive self-esteem and self-regard wavering. 

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Embarrassed to see a Therapist?

November 11th, 2008

Sometimes people are embarrassed to see a therapist.  Others might be ashamed to let their friends or family know that they have seen or are seeing a counselor.  They think, ‘Will people think I’m crazy or weak?’  But now, the secret is out…

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