Posts Tagged ‘therapy’

The body will open up when it feels safe

April 6th, 2017

187-eka-pada-rajakapotasana-3-yoga-pose-iyengarHave you ever attempted the yoga pose known as Eka Pada Raja- kapotasana, otherwise known as King Pigeon? In this pose, you balance on a bent leg, while reaching behind you to pull the opposite leg up – all while putting an arch in your back. It looks similar to a mermaid on a beach and is quite elegant. The pose requires a lot of openings in your body, flexiblity, and calmness. Without these qualities, you could hurt yourself, or simply fall out of balance.

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The Hard Season…

February 6th, 2017

therapythe hard season
will
split you through,
you will bleed water.

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Your Illusions

January 19th, 2015

illusionSome of your illusions seeped into you before you learned to talk. Others sneaked into you later, while you were busy figuring out how to become yourself. Eventually, you even made conscious choices to adopt certain illusions because they provided you with comfort and consolation.

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Tears…and The Soul

October 29th, 2014

Tears and the soulI might find myself in tears. I wrote these words to a friend recently, anticipating a hurtful experience with someone I know. I was poking fun at myself, making fun of my propensity to cry, a trait I am at times proud of and at other times would rather not have.

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Keep Your Heart Open

December 9th, 2013

Yesterday was a cold, snowy day in DC.  I, along with a small group of intrepid yogis, attended a class on inversions and folds.  It was a great class – very inwardly focused yet challenging.  We did a lot of heart-openers, pushing our chests and hearts out, bending our upper backs and feeling very flexible – or not so flexible – depending on our individual situations.

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The Therapist/Client Relationship

January 1st, 2012

psychotherapyClients seem surprised when I ask them questions like “Are you mad at me?” or “Have I offended you?”.  They often feel uncomfortable answering directly – which I completely understand.  However, I do this for a reason.  In fact, I do it for several reasons, which I will further explain.

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The Movie “Like Crazy” – A lesson in tolerating your emotions

November 30th, 2011

Couples TherapyHave you seen the movie “Like Crazy” – a film about two young lovers who keep attempting to have a relationship with each other, even when it seems in vain?  It’s not an unusual story.  In fact, the couple’s experience is very human.  As a therapist, I found some very useful lessons in it.  But first:  Spoiler alter!  Don’t read on if you don’t want to know the storyline…

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Questions and Compassion

September 26th, 2011

questioning and compassionBe patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves.
–Rainer Maria Rilke

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“When will I feel better?”

March 4th, 2011

change psychotherapyPeople often come to therapists to feel better.  They are tired, depressed, anxious, worried, down…you name it, as you’ve probably been there yourself.  Folks will often see therapists with the hope that these feelings will go away…quickly.  In fact, sometimes in the first session, clients ask me directly, “When will I feel better?”

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Rigorous Honesty

December 1st, 2010

honestyTherapy and counseling can be difficult.  You make the appointment and show up with the best of intentions.  There are some things you need to work on – to talk out.  You then find yourself face-to-face with the therapist and you just can’t bring yourself to speak your truth.  You feel self-conscious, conspicuous, embarrassed or perhaps vulnerable.  You know that being honest with yourself will help, but it’s difficult. Sometimes it takes courage to be honest.

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