December 16th, 2025
At first glance, one might expect the book Ace by Angela Chen to simply be a good primer for folks trying to understand why they don’t desire sex so much. And for that, it’s an excellent resource. The author does a great job of normalizing the spectrum of desire folks experience, including no desire. Ms. Chen explains the spectrum and subtleties of asexuality in a way that many folks would find helpful.
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October 8th, 2015
In September, I presented a workshop with my colleague, therapist Tamara Pincus, at CatalystCon West in Burbank, LA. Our workshop, “Why can’t I go to a sex party?” provided a space for professionals, including psychotherapists, to explore how their sexual expression and professional lives interact. We’ve facilitated this conversation several times and one thing has become abundantly clear: the dominant culture’s shaming of non-heteronormative, non-monogamy-based sexualities affects not only clients…but therapists as well. The shame and judgement of a sexually-repressed culture has consequences for everyone.
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Tags: Kink & Sexuality, relationships, self care, sex
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October 3rd, 2014
Sex should be fun, sensual, erotic, hot, connecting. Highlight the word should. But it’s not this way for some people. Specifically, it is sometimes not comfortable for some transgender and gender non-conforming people. One of the main culprits is discomfort with what are supposed to be sexy body parts. But if these body parts – or at least the mainstream names for them – don’t align with your gender identity, then sex becomes less than fun. However, I recently attended a workshop, by a fantastic presenter – S. Bear Bergman – that helped us all reimagine trans sexuality.
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