Archive for the ‘Sexual/Physical Abuse & Trauma’ Category
November 2nd, 2009
Earlier in the week, I learned a valuable lesson from someone* who’s been through some major difficulties in life, including alcoholism in the family, financial difficulties, relationship issues, and mental illness. This woman – let’s call her Shauna – has been troubled for a long time. However, she’s found an excellent coping mechanism, firmly grounded in awareness and mindfulness. Even when times are hard, and perhaps especially when times are hard, Shauna reminds herself to “Look at my feet.”
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Tags: Anxiety & Stress, hope
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August 24th, 2009
Have you ever felt lonely, confused, angry or sad? Of course you have. These are all normal, human emotions and experiences. Are you comfortable feeling this way? Perhaps not. So, what do you do when faced with them? Do you stuff them, avoiding them through negative self-talk, eating, drinking or some other behavior? If so, there is another way.
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Tags: counseling, hope, therapy
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May 21st, 2009
If you bring forth that which is within you,
Then that which is within you
Will be your salvation.
If you do not bring forth that
Which is within you,
Then that which is within you
Will destroy you.
~The Gnostic Gospels
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Tags: addiction, grief, hope, Therapy & Counseling, trauma
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May 11th, 2009
Intimate Partner Violence, also known as Domestic Violence and Dating Violence, is a very secretive affair. Folks don’t talk about it, but approximately one in four couples (straight and same-sex) experience it. (Barnes, It’s Just a Quarrel’, American Bar Association Journal, February 1998, p. 25.) Most of the times, it remains a secret out of shame and embarrassment. Other times, partners might not identify the dynamics as abuse or violence. What ever the case, you don’t have to accept this kind of relationship.
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Tags: abuse
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April 19th, 2009
So many things can happen in life that trap us is shame. Being raped or in a violent relationship, childhood sexual exploitation, having an addiction or dealing with sexuality issues, or even a mental illness are just a few of the things of which folks feel ashamed. There are many more. Most of them are not our fault. But “The Shame Trap” catches you.
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Tags: addictions, hope, sexual abuse
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March 17th, 2009
Forgiveness is a tough concept. Especially if you’ve been abused, neglected or molested. It’s hard to even think about forgiveness if you’ve been mistreated by lovers, bosses, so-called friends, or even society (especially if you’re a Person of Color or LGBT). How can you forgive someone who hurt you so badly?
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Tags: addictions, hope, sexual abuse
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January 9th, 2009
Confronting a history of sexual abuse and rape is difficult for anyone. It is uniquely difficult for men, as our culture has so many myths about male sexuality. One is that men can’t be raped. A second is that males always enjoy any kind of sexual attention. It’s deemed a inherent part of our make-up.
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Tags: & Sexual Compulsions, alcohol, drugs, healing, sexual abuse, sexuality
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December 10th, 2008
“I wish I had never been born.” Have you ever thought this? It’s a devastating feeling. And not so uncommon.
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Tags: healing, hope
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November 15th, 2008
Someone once asked me this question. This person was struggling with their past and the way it was making itself known in their present. So many mistakes. So much growth still desired. Positive self-esteem and self-regard wavering.
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Tags: counseling, self-esteem, therapy
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November 11th, 2008
Sometimes people are embarrassed to see a therapist. Others might be ashamed to let their friends or family know that they have seen or are seeing a counselor. They think, ‘Will people think I’m crazy or weak?’ But now, the secret is out…
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Tags: counseling, therapy
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