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November 7th, 2011
Have you ever experienced overwhelming grief? If you’ve gone through an extremely difficult loss, you know what I’m talking about. Feeling on the verge of tears – more often than you’ve ever experienced. Feeling sad and depressed much of the day. Or experiencing a surge of sadness unexpectedly. You find yourself angry and bitter and don’t quite understand this change in your perspective. Perhaps you react strongly to things that would have gotten a much weaker response from you at a different time.
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September 30th, 2010
I often times see folks who are dealing with jealousy. They may suspect that their partner, girlfriend or boyfriend, or spouse is seeing, sleeping, talking, texting, or fantasizing about someone else. Others might find themselves jealous of their loved one’s commitment to work, the time she or he spends with the child, how connected he or she is to their best friend, or even how much time the person in question spends on the computer. Yes, you’ve guessed it by now – jealously can take many shapes.
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August 30th, 2010
Judgement. I know you’ve felt it from people, maybe even from a therapist. Judgement that your “lifestyle” isn’t healthy. That there’s something wrong with your open relationship. Maybe you’ve even been told that your intimate relationships are a sign that you can’t commit, you’re immature, or some other nonsense.
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May 29th, 2010
When I see a couple in the therapy room, they are typically at their wit’s end. They’ve tried to fix things on their own and can’t see their way through it. Perhaps one partner blames the other. Most likely, they’ve tried to talk over their concerns themselves, but end up fighting, arguing, or simply avoiding the issues. They don’t feel connection with each other and often feel contempt.
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May 20th, 2010
Discussing topics of fetish, fantasy, BDSM and other “kinks” demands that your therapist is non-judgmental. So many times, folks have reported feeling judged or pathologized for their desires or fantasies, even when they find these desires to be joyful and fulfilling. A kink-friendly therapist doesn’t judge. A kink-friendly and aware therapist recognizes that there are many ways in which people express themselves, their identity, intimacy, and sexuality.
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March 9th, 2010
Do you have a hard time trusting? Do you find intimacy threatening? Do you run from a relationship before it gets too serious? If so, you’re not alone. These are some of the difficulties survivors of abuse, sexual assault, rape and molestation report. Not all survivors, of course, but enough to were it’s recognizable.
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January 14th, 2010
Are you in a difficult situation with your partner or spouse? Fighting, arguing, wondering if this will work? If so, it’s not an unusual place to be. Being in a committed relationship has many challenges. Being vulnerable and trusting, especially when trust has been violated, is difficult.
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July 19th, 2009
I have learned from my clients that being LGBT and in the military is not easy. Having to hide an integral part of yourself can take it’s toll. The military poses special challenges for same sex couples in which one or both of the partners is serving. For some couples, secrecy becomes important both on the job and off. And if the couple decides to live openly while off-duty, worries about being seen or “caught” can still be present.
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Tags: & Queer Concerns, bisexual, couples, gay, Kink & Sexuality, lesbian, polyamory, relationships, transgender
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November 25th, 2008
The holidays can be a time of reunion and gathering of close family and friends. It can also be a time of stress, conflict and hurt feelings – old wounds being reopened.
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November 11th, 2008
Sometimes people are embarrassed to see a therapist. Others might be ashamed to let their friends or family know that they have seen or are seeing a counselor. They think, ‘Will people think I’m crazy or weak?’ But now, the secret is out…
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