Poly-Friendly Therapy
August 30th, 2010
Archive for the ‘Relationships, Couples & Sexuality’ Category
Demonstrating Willingness with Your Partner or Spouse
May 29th, 2010
When I see a couple in the therapy room, they are typically at their wit’s end. They’ve tried to fix things on their own and can’t see their way through it. Perhaps one partner blames the other. Most likely, they’ve tried to talk over their concerns themselves, but end up fighting, arguing, or simply avoiding the issues. They don’t feel connection with each other and often feel contempt.
Why a Kink-Friendly & Kink-Aware Therapist?
May 20th, 2010
Discussing topics of fetish, fantasy, BDSM and other “kinks” demands that your therapist is non-judgmental. So many times, folks have reported feeling judged or pathologized for their desires or fantasies, even when they find these desires to be joyful and fulfilling. A kink-friendly therapist doesn’t judge. A kink-friendly and aware therapist recognizes that there are many ways in which people express themselves, their identity, intimacy, and sexuality.
Unresolved Trauma and Relationships
March 9th, 2010
Do you have a hard time trusting? Do you find intimacy threatening? Do you run from a relationship before it gets too serious? If so, you’re not alone. These are some of the difficulties survivors of abuse, sexual assault, rape and molestation report. Not all survivors, of course, but enough to were it’s recognizable.
Staying on Your Partner’s Island
January 14th, 2010
Are you in a difficult situation with your partner or spouse? Fighting, arguing, wondering if this will work? If so, it’s not an unusual place to be. Being in a committed relationship has many challenges. Being vulnerable and trusting, especially when trust has been violated, is difficult.
Gay and Lesbian Couples & the Military
July 19th, 2009
I have learned from my clients that being gay or lesbian and in the military is not easy. Having to hide an integral part of yourself can take it’s toll. The military poses special challenges for same sex couples in which one or both of the partners is serving. For some couples, secrecy becomes important both on the job and off. And if the couple decides to live openly while off-duty, worries about being seen or “caught” can still be present.
Happy Holidays?
November 25th, 2008
The holidays can be a time of reunion and gathering of close family and friends. It can also be a time of stress, conflict and hurt feelings - old wounds being reopened.
Embarrassed to see a Therapist?
November 11th, 2008
Sometimes people are embarrassed to see a therapist. Others might be ashamed to let their friends or family know that they have seen or are seeing a counselor. They think, ‘Will people think I’m crazy or weak?’ But now, the secret is out…
A Proposition Not Worth Making
November 6th, 2008
In the wake of Proposition 8 passing in California, I’ve been reflecting on what this means for LGBT folk. For those who don’t know, Proposition 8 is a referendum that passed a few days ago, creating a state constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage.
Good News for Same-Sex Couples!
October 27th, 2008
No - marriage equality hasn’t spread across the country…yet. However, Dr. John Gottman of The Gottman Institute has learned some interesting things in his study of lesbian and gay couples. And it appears that same-sex couples have something to teach straight couples.
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